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Knowing Your Children from How They Communicate (Part I)

When a child reach the age of 10 and above, even from the way they speak, you can start to identify the nature and character (personality) of the child and recognize their communication style. Each child has their own elements of uniqueness, all which did not escape the great masterpiece design of the Creator as the Great Architect.

Therefore, in order to simplify the sorting, we divide the personality into these 9 (nine) types. Surely, each one of them has their own uniquity 🙂

  1. They Who Like to be Specific / The Perfectionist Child
  2. They Who Like to be Helpful / The Kind-Hearted or Angelic Child
  3. They Who Like to Show-It / The Performer Child
  4. They Who Like to be Imaginative and Intuitive /The Romantic Child
  5. They Who Like to Analyze / The Detective Child
  6. They Who Like to Criticize / The Critical Questioner Child
  7. They Who Like to Have Fun / The Jovial Child
  8. They Who Like to Take the Lead / The Bossy Child
  9. They Who Like it All in Harmony / The Peace-loving Child
* These Nine categories are based and inspired from the Enneagram method of research.

t1“They Who Like It to be Specific”

  1. The Perfectionist Child

Perfectionists children tend to criticize themselves. They do this to anticipate others from criticizing them in advance (either it’s their parents, brother / sister, friend or anyone else). They do not like being criticized by others because it made them feel like they did something faulty (they want to do everything the right way!).

This ability helps them to become “more mature” than their age, It’s because they have the habit (or they are trained in such a way) to be able to think precisely therefore, they are good at imagining the role of a more mature individual. However, they can be very straight to the point.

Self critic represents their efforts in suppressing their negative emotion and to fulfill the expectations of their parents and teachers.

The Perfectionists children loved being praised for their efforts… give them a consistent guidance on how they could improve themselves more and also on how to become much more patient in enjoying the process “of becoming” so they may feel more comfortable to express what they like and dislike.

t2“They Who Like to be Helpful”

  1. The Kind-Hearted / Angelic Child

A bit similar to the Perfectionist child when handling criticism. The Kind-Hearted child is very sensitive to rejection and criticism as they take it to a deeper level. These children tried their best to please others (mostly their parents) by being a very helpful and obedient child whom demonstrate compliances. They can be very expressive and may ask you many questions or else become very reserved in their own reverie.

Their have this habit of harboring their feelings or hiding their needs. They do this quietly because they do not want to disappoint or being regarded as a burden to others… They do this to make people like (and accept) them.

The Kind-hearted children need to feel they are being understood. Give them the flexibility to be themselves sincerely and a clear direction of what is proper and what is not.

t3“They Who Like to Show-It”

  1. The Performer Child

In contrast to the Kind-Hearted Child, these children does not actually worry about the criticism of others, they can take it all as a challenge for them to gain more improvement. They enjoy the feeling of being in a competition (it triggers their adrenaline!) and strive hard to achieve any award for their effort. They also like to be in the center of attention and tend to be very expressive, and by that, they expressed their opinion bluntly (even towards adults) because of their great curiosity (and their competitive nature).

A Performer Child likes to perform need to be given the chance to prove their own self. Provide them with the freedom to explore everything and guide them to understand the value of sharing… of togetherness.


“They Who Like to be Imaginative and Intuitive”

  1. The Romantic Child

The Romantic child has a very high imagination, they tend to be very sensitive and intuitive. Because of their high-level of empathy (perhaps, too much), they are able to understand the feelings of anyone or anything around them.

They would often feel lonely, disconnected or experiencing the loss of something… as a matter of fact, it is because they wanted to always feel different and unique (which they already are). This “rare” quality within made them feel that they deserved to be treated with an extra appreciation or at least with a little bit more attention than the other children (and it happens, naturally). They love to associate themselves with their idol/idealistic figures and they may become rebellious if they are being criticized or being misunderstood.

A Romantic Children would really love it when they are being treated fairly by people around them, no matter of their age, it helps them to be able to express their honest feelings. For the Romantic Child, the world of arts may consistently foster their social skills, frequently consulted them about living a life with diverse environments and ask their opinion in return, also of how unique everyone already is. It will balance their empathy and tolerance in life.


“They Who Like to Analyze”

  1. The Detective Child

These children spent much of their time alone, whether it’s reading, doing their hobbies, collecting unique stuff, and others. Their mind are filled with curiosity about everything in life as it is also an independent mind. They are happy to use their excellent logic of thinking, they like to question their teachers and often display themselves without emotion so to express that they are not afraid. A scientist-stereotype. They do this because they are actually very sensitive with their feelings and try to avoid any personal conflict as much as possible. They highly appreciate their privacy and do not like to be controlled by anyone nor under any domination of others without their approval.

A bit similar to the Romantic child in terms of questioning about life, let these children explore how intelligent they are. Help them learn to see the world from a wider point of view, ask their opinions about humanity and pure love. Direct them to begin to understand the reality of life and how the causal law runs. Cooperate with them to expand their friendship and become acquainted with various kind of people, cultivate their ability to socialize naturally.


“They Who Like to Criticize”

  1. The Critical-Questioner Child

They are generally friendly and easy to be familiar with other people, they can be relied upon when they are given an instruction to do something. However, when appointed with multi-tasking they may express fear of bad things to come, such as the risk of dangers that might occur, fear of insecurity, and so on… They are very aware about their safety. Their anxiety is usually adopted from their parents, as they grew up watching it, this is also why they like to be within a group or a solid community so they may feel safe.

The critical-questioner children need to feel safe and secure. Give them direction so that they are able to undergo everything by doing it one by one, to acquire mutual interest in listening and speaking in return, to become calm and composed. Be attentively aware when communicating with these children as they may scan your gestures, mimic and your reactions, in an advancing manner.



“They Who Like to Have Fun”

  1. The Jovial Child

The Jovial children are action oriented and likes adventures as they are fascinated with freedom. Imagine a fairy tale about a trip to the magical land, meeting fairies and pirates. This is how they are, they can be very spontaneous and able to easily get along with adults. Surprisingly, the jovial children would prefer not being alone even though they would immediately want freedom after it (they do not like the feeling of being attached to anyone) .

In communicating with The Jovial Child, clearly specify the rule of the house. Explain them who is the decision maker or the leader, so these children learn to adapt themselves to the circumstances. Teach them to be friendly, give them direct lessons in open nature (be it camping, fishing, scouting, hiking, etc.) so they learn how to be compact as a team and also to make peace with their own emotions, by balancing the physical and the non-physical.



“They Who Like to Take the Lead”

  1. The Bossy Child

These children shows a naturally independent attitude since their early stage with great energy, they generally liked the physical activity and able to influence their friends to follow their footsteps. Even so, they do this in advance so that they are not under anyone’s control. They would not hesitate to show their energetic spirit and able to fight back verbally (or physically), if provoked. These children needs a lot of tenderness and reassurance that everything is fine and that no one would get hurt or hurt them and the ones they loved.

When communicating with these children, help them to be able to express their concern and expectations, direct them to arrange their activities with good time management and show them that you believe in their capability. Appreciate their perseverance, accompany them when they are upset. Direct them to understand that everything in life happens naturally and requires a process and that everyone continue to learn as much as they are too.

Most important of all, teach them tenderness and compassion to be able to forgive.


“They Who Like it All in Harmony”

  1. The Peace-loving Children

As the name implies, they would love everything to be in peace and the situation to be calm and neutral.

These children prefer not to become a burden for anyone. In a case of conflict, for example, they would rather disappear than resolving the issues immediately (unless, they are forced to do so). This behavior is actually the result of their consideration in wanting to defend the interests and to meet the needs of both parties: “a win-win solution” by decreasing everyone’s burden with their presence.  So it’s either they are able to do something about it and established peace in the situation.  Or, they are not able to do something about it, and look for peace in the aftermath (after they have gone or walk away from the situation). They rejects anger and so they keep it for themselves. Uniquely, they can have a very strong emotional bond with nature.

The peace-loving children think everyone’s needs are equally important and might be confused on how to transfer their understanding to people around them as to keep it reasonable still. Even so, they are fiercely loyal to their family and is obedient to follow the rules. Be continuous in giving them appreciation. It is most effective to develop their communication and social skill by encouraging them to play and perform various physical activities in open nature.

Again, show them how you appreciate their dedication but also point them out on how to have fun, and that it’s okay to be silly and spontaneous at times. Continue to challenge them on trying new things

Please keep in mind that their character development are influenced by what they see, hear and feel since their early age, including their parent’s behavior and the condition of their closest environment, which is the family. These are the basic factors in the Enneagram which affect the child development in reaching adulthood.

Of course, a more in-depth dialogue with the Parents would be needed in order to know more of the causal effect which has constructed the children’s communication style, pattern and Enneagram type.

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Kiat #3 : Kembali ke “Basic”

Sebagai pasangan, tentu saja Anda akan menikmati pesta, wisata berdua atau aktivitas menyenangkan lainnya yang dilakukan bersama-sama… bahkan terkadang mem-plonco pasangan anda sekedar untuk bahan candaan.

Tapi pernahkah Anda mengalami hal-hal kecil yang malah ditanggapi terlalu serius? Atau Hal-hal yang seharusnya dianggap konyol malahan jadi sumbu perdebatan yang lebih luas…?


“Loveinbalance menyadari betapa pentingnya bersikap santun di dalam pergaulan sehari-hari serta memiliki kesadaran lebih terhadap norma-norma tak tertulis ini agar Anda terhindar dari pertengkaran-pertengkaran yang sebenarnya tidak berguna.”

oleh karenanya kami menganalisa beberapa kemungkinan beserta do’s and don’ts nya…


bila Anda baru habis minum-minum … tetaplah santun

“Kami setuju bahwa dengan menjaga topik pembicaraan hanya pada hal-hal yang simple & menyenangkan saja ketimbang memancing topik-topik mengenai perbedaan antara Anda dan pasangan akan memudahkan terjadinya komunikasi berkualitas diantara Anda berdua secara lebih efektif .”


saat Ia sedang membicarakan bisnis dan pekerjaannya… tetaplah santun

“Percayalah pada pasangan Anda, percayalah bahwa Ia mampu mengurus bisnisnya. Hormati keputusannya jika Ia menginginkan privasi dan hindari memberikan opini pribadi kecuali hal itu terkait dengan apa yang sudah pernah Anda jalani atau Anda kuasai dengan baik.”


bahkan ketika seks menjadi pembahasan… tetaplah santun

Yah—kita semua pasti punya sisi liar semacam ini… ya ga?


bahkan ketika Anda sudah saling akrab mengenal satu sama lain dalam kurun waktu yang lama… tetaplah santun

“Tetaplah santun dan hargai pasangan Anda seperti ketika Anda baru pertama kali mengenalnya atau seperti ketika Anda jatuh cinta padanya untuk pertama kalinya. Mereka yang tidak pernah mengalaminya mengatakan hal itu tidak mudah, tapi mereka yang berhasil melakukannya menyatakan bahwa pengalaman tersebut memberikan perasaan yang sangat luar biasa untuk disyukuri lagi dan lagi. Para pasangan kekasih yang sungguh-sungguh merayakan kebersamaan mereka di setiap waktu sesungguhnya nyata adanya.”


bahkan ketika Anda tidak menyukai pendapat atau kebiasaan satu sama lain dan bingung bagaimana menyampaikannya… tetaplah santun

“Pahamilah trik “kapan waktunya berbicara”. Pertahankan selera humor Anda. Sudah selayaknya merupakan tanggung jawab Anda berdua untuk menjaganya tetap hidup di dalam hubungan berpasangan.

Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –

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Key #3 : Stick to the Basic

As couples, of course you would enjoy parties, having a trip together or any other fun activities… and sometimes even make jokes towards your partner.

But have you ever experienced having small things that were taken too seriously? Or perhaps things that should have been regarded as fun yet happened to invite small quarrels between both and then seemed to last like forever…?


and so we examine several cases of do’s and don’ts…









Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –






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Kiat #2 : Menjadi Dewasa di dalam Sebuah Hubungan Meskipun Keduanya Bersikap Kekanak-kanakan

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“Kami berada di dalam sebuah hubungan yang sedang mengalami tantangan namun kami berdua berniat untuk memperbaikinya… Kami yakin pada ikatan emosional yang sudah kami miliki…”

Jika pernyataan diatas disampaikan oleh Anda serta pasangan Anda maka artikel ini penting bagi Anda berdua.

Loveinbalance menerima pertanyaan dari teman, rekan kerja dan keluarga mengenai persoalan di dalam sebuah hubungan, namun yang justru mengejutkan adalah bagaimana pertanyaan-pertanyaan tersebut memberikan pemahaman yang lebih luas lagi mengenai apa yang seringkali menjadi penyebab munculnya tantangan dalam sebuah hubungan (yang saat ini juga kami berikan kepada Anda).

Persoalannya sih, seringkali begini… Kebanyakan orang berpendapat bahwa hubungan berpasangan dilakukan dengan cara cocok-cocokan semata (tapi kita tahu hal itu tidak benar adanya). Ada banyak hal lain yang lebih utama untuk dipertimbangkan… sebelum Anda memutuskan hendak menjalin hubungan serius atau sekedar iseng.

Apa yang seringkali menjadi penyebab utama permasalahan di dalam sebuah hubungan adalah ketidakdewasaan dalam melihat bahwa hal ini bukanlah sebuah permainan. Untuk praktisnya, kami merangkum hal-hal yang dapat Anda lakukan di awal sebagai solusi guna mempertahankan sebuah hubungan:

  • be honest with yourself, then be honest with each other

(Jujurlah pada diri Anda… Anda lebih mampu menerima pasangan Anda apa adanya ketika Anda mampu menerima diri Anda sendiri. Tanpa embel-embel pribadi. Simple!)

  • have the bonding tool: LAUGHTER

(Pergilah menikmati sebuah acara komedi ataupun apa saja yang mampu mengundang tawa bersama pasangan, berhentilah terus-menerus merasakan kecemasan Anda dan mulailah merasa bahagia 🙂 )

  • have your quality time with privacy, be objective on each other’s situation and condition

(Milikilah waktu berkualitas untuk diri pribadi Anda berdua, latih diri Anda untuk menjadi obyektif pada situasi dan kondisi masing-masing, ambil waktu tenang untuk berbicara satu sama lain tanpa perlu mengulang-ngulang kesalahan yang telah lalu… pliss dehhare gene… Sebaiknya Anda juga hindari menerima saran dari luar dan tetaplah berada di saat ini dengan siapa Anda membina komitmen berpasangan. Mampukan diri Anda untuk menjadi mandiri dan mempercayai satu sama lain seutuhnya… karena hal inilah yang mampu menggagalkan seribu satu alasan pemicu pertikaian antara Anda berdua serta membuka jalan bagi solusi yang lebih baik lagi)

  • become friends (again), then become close and become more intimate

(Tentu dong! Siapa lagi yang dapat menjadi teman paling menyenangkan dalam hidup Anda…? Tidak ada hubungan yang kuat bila tak diawali dari hubungan pertemanan yang baik)


(Tanyakan kabar pasangan Anda, apa yang mereka rasakan dan apa yang dapat Anda lakukan untuk membuat mereka merasa lebih nyaman/tenang bila memang terjadi sesuatu)

  • be able to trust each other and get to know each other so well

(Tak bisa dipungkiri… hal ini hanya bisa terjadi jika Anda berdua bersedia untuk jujur dan mau membina kebersamaan)

  • be wiser, understand what you both need to get things done (listen more to each other)

(Mulailah membuat rencana yang jelas bila Anda berdua memutuskan untuk hidup bersama. Anda tidak harus punya kemampuan manajemen yang hebat lho, cukup dengan membuat skala prioritas dan konsisten dalam menjalankan rencana tersebut… mulailah melakukan segala sesuatu yang dibutuhkan, satu persatu dengan sikap saling suportif terhadap pasangan. It takes two to tango, anyway)

  • strengthen the bond (such as having a trip together, retreats – but not a superficial trip)

(Romantisme yang berjalan alami, apa adanya… adalah romantisme yang terbaik dalam hubungan percintaan)

  • have a lot of faith and allow it to multiply what you do in life within goodness 

(Hal yang utama adalah memiliki iman yang besar dalam segala hal yang Anda jalani. Hal ini membutuhkan sedikit banyak pemahaman yang lebih luas disertai hubungan yang aktif antara Anda dengan Sang Sumber Hidup)

Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –

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Key #2 : Know How to be Mature in a Relationship if Both Immature

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“We are having a challenge in our relationship but we intend to fix it… Because we believe in the emotional bond that we already have…”

If the statement above is made by you and your partner, then this article is definitely for both of you to read.

Loveinbalance received questions from friends, co-workers and relatives on relationship, yet surprisingly, the questions itself encourages us in gaining better insights on what has often become the problem in many relationships (which we now deliver to you for a convenient reading).

Many people perceived that relationship is done like having a pair-matching game (but we know it is not true). There are many other more important things to consider before you decide whether to have a serious relationship… or simply just for fun. Since there are only two things that would be the base of your intention, either you are being Mature or Immature about it.

The major cause of problems in a relationship is the immaturity in seeing that the relationship is not a game. To sort it out, we summarize what you can do as an early solution in a relationship:

  • be honest with yourself, then be honest with each other

Please do, you are more able to accept your partner as it is when you are ready and able to accept your own self. Yes, it’s that simple!

  • have the bonding tool: LAUGHTER

Go to a comedy show together, stuff that’s going to make you laugh, stop worrying and start being happy 🙂

  • have your quality time with privacy. Be objective on each other’s situation and condition

Have a quiet time to talk with each other, no need for past case repetition. Set aside from seeking outer advices for now and be present with who you are in the relationship with. Remember, an objective mind would foil a thousand of unnecessary reasons that would only trigger conflicts between you and your partner, and also pave the way for better solutions

  • become friends (again), then become close and become more intimate

There can be no strong relationship without each both of you starting it as good friends


Ask them how they are feeling today, and what you can do to change that if something happens

  • be able to trust each other and get to know each other so well

Without a doubt, it can only happen if you are both willing to be honest and foster togetherness

  • be wiser, understand what you both need to get things done (listen more to each other)

Begin making clear plans if you decide to live together. You don’t necessarily have to have great management skill, by knowing how to make priorities and be consistent in executing the plan would be enough… And then, start doing everything that is needed, one by one, as you both mutually support each other as a couple. It takes two to tango, anyway

  • keep strengthening the bond (such as having a trip together, retreats – but not a superficial trip)

A natural romance is the best romance in a healthy relationship

  • have a lot of faith and allow it to multiply what you do in life within goodness

The main thing is to have a great faith. It may require a little more understanding into a broader sense of mind supported by an active relationship between you and the Source of Life

And of course,

  • share every experience, together

“No one should be in control in the relationship, you both are partners”

Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –

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Key #1 : Communicate Better with Your Partner



Well, have words like these spoken by you or your partner? After several arguments and debate, whether to decide who’s doing what, who should be responsible for what and how it’s supposed to be done… (before eventually repeating the same end of the conversation again that had not been previously resolved completely).

Things like this causes the mind and body tired, as well as the daily stress that is often considered lightly and become a commonplace by many people which actually would only trigger an even greater debate when both are in the state of fatigue and no longer able to become tolerant.

You need to be careful, this misconception is actually originated from erroneous reception when you communicate with each other that is constantly sustained into a snowball effect, which has reduced the clarity in assessing your partner objectively as it is associated with other things that are still in the stage of “preconceived bias” or “premature judgment”. Therefore, there’s no need to be haste.

Apparently, the cause for all this is SELFISHNESS

Personal ego, immaturity, lack of experience due to young age, trauma and many other things that eventually become fear and dishonesty in undergoing a relationship, triggers the inability to become neither a good listener nor a good messenger.

We do understand this is a sensitive area in a person’s character, so here’s what you can do for your next step in building a better communication; BE SELFLESS + COMMON SENSE

In short, be aware that you are indeed “together” and then learn to simply give respect (LOVE) to others as much or as equal as you respect (LOVE) yourself.

Start from your Self.

Along this is done, you may able to increasingly realize – how your behavior can be affected and may also affect the attitude of others towards yourself – particularly in the life of pairwise, where it takes two people who are equally pleased to see how to live a life in a way that is consistent and complementary in balance without any necessity and confrontation – for both. All problems that becomes challenges are faced with a sincere and simplified mindset, without hassle, without cumbersome and is resolved immediately.

 “You have to be able to be who you are, and if your current self happens to be not very positive at the moment… then that person should be the one who helps you see things in a better way”.

To simplify the explanation above, LOVEINBALANCE summarize it into these practical self-reminders:

  • Be selfless with common sense (train your empathy)
  • There’s no need to rush and start in a relationship too early, you are more obliged to mature-up yourself – first!
  • 70% commitment need to be given from each person yet always put extra into it
  • Good Communication is vital, it is important to being able to talk about your problems
  • There is no such thing as “I don’t have time”, you always “have time” for your loved ones
  • If people want to be in the relationships, they stop being selfish about it
  • If the word “I deserve this and that” still occurs, then probably the current relationship is not the best for you. Then again, take notice what made you think you need to “give and take” in the first place?
  • Be compassionate and always consider each other’s feelings in order for the relationships to function properly
  • Resolve your challenges, resolve it as immediate as you both can

Please consider these reminders and as you start to become more of a good listener, you also able to convey what you truly mean to your partner in a more sincere and better way.

Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –

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Kiat #1 : Ciptakan komunikasi yang lebih baik dengan Pasangan Anda



Nah, pernahkan kata-kata seperti ini terucap dari Anda atau diucapkan oleh pasangan Anda? Setelah melalui beberapa argumen dan perdebatan sepele, entah itu memutuskan siapa yang mengerjakan apa, siapa yang harusnya bertanggung jawab untuk apa atau bagaimana seharusnya ini itu dilakukan… (sebelum pada akhirnya kembali mengulang ujung percakapan yang sama yang sebelumnya juga tidak terselesaikan secara tuntas)

Hal-hal seperti ini tentu membuat pikiran dan tubuh Anda lelah, seperti halnya stress harian yang seringkali dianggap lalu saja dan menjadi hal biasa oleh banyak orang yang sebenarnya hanya akan memicu terjadinya perdebatan yang lebih besar lagi ketika keduanya dalam kondisi sangat lelah dan sudah tidak mampu lagi untuk bertoleransi.

Anda perlu berhati-hati, kesalahpahaman ini sesungguhnya berawal dari penerimaan yang keliru dan terus-menerus berkelanjutan (snowball effect) yang telah mengurangi kejernihan Anda dalam menilai pasangan secara obyektif dan dikaitkan dengan hal-hal lain yang masih dalam taraf “prasangka bias” Anda pribadi atau “premature judgment”… Karenanya, sebenarnya Anda tak perlu terburu-buru dalam menilai maksud siapapun.

Ternyata, kesemua ini disebabkan oleh Sifat Egois (SELFISHNESS).

Ego pribadi, belum matangnya kedewasaan, kurangnya pengalaman karena usia muda, trauma dan masih banyak lagi hal lainnya yang akhirnya menjadi rasa takut dan ketidakjujuran diri dalam menjalani sebuah hubungan, menyebabkan ketidakmampuan untuk menjadi pendengar yang baik dan juga sebagai penyampai pesan yang baik.

Kami sadar hal ini adalah area yang sensitif di dalam karakter seseorang, untuk mengatasinya inilah langkah-langkah yang dapat Anda lakukan guna membangun komunikasi yang lebih baik; yaitu dengan memiliki Kesadaran akan Kebersamaan (BE SELFLESS + COMMON SENSE)

Singkatnya, berkenan untuk menyadari bahwa hidup ini untuk “bersama”, dalam pengertian sederhana ya.. Anda memberikan respek (Kasih) kepada orang lain sebagaimana Anda merespek (mengasihi) diri Anda sendiri.

Dimulai dari diri Anda.

Seiring hal ini dilakukan maka Anda semakin menyadari bahwa bagaimana Anda bersikap dapat dipengaruhi dan dapat mempengaruhi sikap orang lain terhadap Anda. Terutama sekali dalam kehidupan berpasangan, dibutuhkan dua orang yang sama-sama berkenan untuk melihat bagaimana menjalani kehidupan dengan cara yang selaras dan saling melengkapi secara seimbang tanpa ada konfrontasi dan keharusan. Semua permasalahan yang menjadi tantangan pun dihadapi dengan pola pikir tulus dan sederhana tanpa kerumitan yang berbelit-belit serta diselesaikan dengan segera.

“You have to be able to be who you are, and if your current self happens to be not very positive at the moment… then that person should be the one who helps you see things in a better way”.

“Anda harus menjadi diri Anda sendiri, dan bila diri pribadi Anda saat ini tidak terlalu positif… maka pasangan Anda adalah seseorang yang mampu membawa Anda menuju kebaikan dan melihat segalanya lebih baik lagi”.

Untuk mempermudah penjelasan diatas, LOVEINBALANCE merangkumnya dalam beberapa poin self-reminder berikut ini:

  • Be selfless with common sense (train your empathy)

(Hidup penuh kesadaran akan kebersamaan akan melatih rasa empati Anda)

  • There’s no need to rush and start in a relationship too early, you are more obliged to mature-up yourself – first!

(Kedewasaan mempengaruhi bagaimana Anda mampu bertanggung jawab, matangkan usia dan kedewasaan Anda terlebih dahulu)

  • 70% commitment need to be given from each person yet always put extra into it

(Pastikan Anda siap untuk menerima konsekuensi dan berkomitmen)

  • Good Communication is vital, it is important to being able to talk about your problems

(Ketulusan diatas segalanya bahkan dalam berkomunikasi)

  • There is no such thing as “I don’t have time”, you always “have time” for your loved ones

(Kebersamaan tanpa syarat)

  • If people want to be in the relationships, they stop being selfish about it

(Menjadikan kualitas kebersamaan semakin baik lagi)

  • If the word “I deserve this and that” still occurs, then probably the current relationship is not the best for you. Then again, take notice what made you think you need to “give and take” in the first place?

(Kembali ke prinsip dasar, seberapa tulus dan siapnya Anda berdua sebelum menjalani hubungan)

  • Be compassionate and always consider each other’s feelings in order for the relationships to function properly

(Diatas segalanya… jadilah Kasih dan penuh empati)

  • Resolve your challenges, resolve it as immediate as you both can

(Biasakan kejujuran dalam berkomunikasi agar Anda semakin mampu menguatkan satu sama lain)

Pertimbangkan dengan seksama beberapa poin diatas, ketika Anda mulai menjadi pendengar yang baik dan tulus bagi pasangan maka Anda mampu menyampaikan apa saja yang anda maksud dengan lebih baik lagi.

Stay blessed in a simple soulful love,

– DB & EA –

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